I have talked a lot about just picking your self up, and how to keep motivated. There is one thing I've never really focused on and that's disappointment or failure. I have faced so many big let downs in my life. I know a lot of you out there have. It's life. I feel like I've come a long way on being able to handle disappointment. I want to share with you somethings that have changed my out look on disappointments. Now I tend to be a person who doesn't learn something until something bad happens. Why? I have yet to figure that out. I've just made a lot of choices that have had life long consequences to them. Like I shared with you before about me going pretty much bankrupt. I am a religious person. During those times where I was failing, a lot of people didn't realize there were many times where I came home at night out of ideas, prayed and would sit in my room crying thinking about my bad choices. I would begin to grow angry with my self and knew I have to prove to my self I could make my life change. When I started to see success or things turn out the way I wanted them to, I began to gain hope that things were going to be good again. I then realized I had to do everything in my power to make sure I never fell that far again. Why did this happen? I never expected to lose everything. I was making enough money for my age that I never pictured losing it all. Hence when it came, I was out of ideas, cause I had never thought I needed an idea. One time I wanted to demonstrate this to peers. I did a little trick. I took a buddy and I had told him I had just made the best fruit punch ever! No one could beat this taste. I told him the trick was to take as big of gulp as possible. Excited he grabbed the cup and began to drink it. Little did he know I had made it with a lot of salt. As he about spit on me with a disgusted look on his face, others giggled. I then gave him some candy, which I didn't tamper with. The point? Many of us tend to do this, we look at something so good and put all bets in that it's going to turn out to be the best thing in life! When we get to that point, it just turns out to be a big disappointment. We are disgusted with our choices, because we knew in the back of our heads no this is to good to be true. Once we've moved on we realize that we can make other choices in order to get a sweet return. We do this a lot. We make choices and we believe in these choices so much we have all our hopes up. Thats hard to feel that fall apart. Once I realized everything I had hoped for fell apart, it was in those times where I realized I got my self into this mess, I must be able to get my self out. We tend to start do a pity me party, when things go wrong. It's natural when we get kicked down we get lost, lose focus, and get discouraged. I started to think I feel so angry and want to do something like enter a MMA fight cause I was so pumped with anger. I then realized I could change that feeling and turn it towards getting something else I wanted. I realized when I was faced with disappointment, the biggest motivator became proving everyone around me wrong, including my self. I began to think of ideas I would have never had unless I had became this driven with revenge. You see my disappointments, I turned them into a motivator, they became what drive me. We all have scars, I keep my disappointment as scars. As hard as they were to go through, some needing more stitching to heal, they remind me I've come from the bottom to the top of the barrel. This helps me whenever I do face failure. I realize I've made it out once before and it wasn't my tears that got me through it, it was changing how I took those failures and turned them into drive. Life is how we look at it. It's always bad when we want it to be, but amazing when we want it to be. Think about it. Take hold of the wheel, let down the gas full throttle and never let up. Disappointment will always come, expect it. No one wins every single game! Losses made them winners sooner or later.
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