Little things become the BIG things!

I apologize for taking so long to get this blog up! Sometimes I have to have time to think of new things. If you ever have suggestions please leave comments and I will probably use it! The one thing I have been thinking about is how little changes make the biggest changes. I talk to people all the time who are looking for big changes in the shortest amount of time. I think I've touched a little bit on this in previous blogs. I want to dive into a little more though. We have all heard that saying time is money. This is true, we can never have enough time. We can never have enough money. All the new technology that comes out is so we can shorten our time on one thing, so we can have more time to other things. How awesome would it be if I told you I would come do everything around your house for you everyday?! How much time would that save you and how much more things could you do? It would be wonderful! After awhile though things would change. I would stop doing it and then when you had to go back to doing it your self life would seem like chaos! We do this with habits. We want these habits to change our lives forever, but we do it so fast and as soon as life comes back to where we started we realize we probably did more damage or just lost more motivation to make the change. We are so use to thinking big. Doesn't matter if physically it's big it just has to seem big in our minds. We live the way of Texas everything bigger. People want to be, have and gain bigger things. We have to realize that our challenges, the bad habits, and things you hate are things which have developed over the course of your lifetime. Why do we expect to fix those problems in such a short time? Sometimes it's about taking small steps in the right direction in order to fix the years of going in the wrong direction. We never realize how much the little things change us in such a big way. Think about walking on a path you know this path is going to get you to your favorite place on earth. Now let's say you get distracted and start walking off the path towards something you think is important at the time. Then you realize you've gone astray, and walked so far away from the path that it's just exhausting thinking about the travel back to the path. The only way back is my making the small steps back towards the path. This may be a far fetched analogy, but we all know we've done this in one aspect of our lives. If we really want to create a new lifestyle change in our lives we have to make the small and simple steps first to create that lifestyle. Start small make those changes, don't look for the easy way out, because no reward is worth being easy.

The Dis appointment...

I have talked a lot about just picking your self up, and how to keep motivated. There is one thing I've never really focused on and that's disappointment or failure. I have faced so many big let downs in my life. I know a lot of you out there have. It's life. I feel like I've come a long way on being able to handle disappointment. I want to share with you somethings that have changed my out look on disappointments. Now I tend to be a person who doesn't learn something until something bad happens. Why? I have yet to figure that out. I've just made a lot of choices that have had life long consequences to them. Like I shared with you before about me going pretty much bankrupt. I am a religious person. During those times where I was failing, a lot of people didn't realize there were many times where I came home at night out of ideas, prayed and would sit in my room crying thinking about my bad choices. I would begin to grow angry with my self and knew I have to prove to my self I could make my life change. When I started to see success or things turn out the way I wanted them to, I began to gain hope that things were going to be good again. I then realized I had to do everything in my power to make sure I never fell that far again. Why did this happen? I never expected to lose everything. I was making enough money for my age that I never pictured losing it all. Hence when it came, I was out of ideas, cause I had never thought I needed an idea. One time I wanted to demonstrate this to peers. I did a little trick. I took a buddy and I had told him I had just made the best fruit punch ever! No one could beat this taste. I told him the trick was to take as big of gulp as possible. Excited he grabbed the cup and began to drink it. Little did he know I had made it with a lot of salt. As he about spit on me with a disgusted look on his face, others giggled. I then gave him some candy, which I didn't tamper with. The point? Many of us tend to do this, we look at something so good and put all bets in that it's going to turn out to be the best thing in life! When we get to that point, it just turns out to be a big disappointment. We are disgusted with our choices, because we knew in the back of our heads no this is to good to be true. Once we've moved on we realize that we can make other choices in order to get a sweet return. We do this a lot. We make choices and we believe in these choices so much we have all our hopes up. Thats hard to feel that fall apart. Once I realized everything I had hoped for fell apart, it was in those times where I realized I got my self into this mess, I must be able to get my self out. We tend to start do a pity me party, when things go wrong. It's natural when we get kicked down we get lost, lose focus, and get discouraged. I started to think I feel so angry and want to do something like enter a MMA fight cause I was so pumped with anger. I then realized I could change that feeling and turn it towards getting something else I wanted. I realized when I was faced with disappointment, the biggest motivator became proving everyone around me wrong, including my self. I began to think of ideas I would have never had unless I had became this driven with revenge. You see my disappointments, I turned them into a motivator, they became what drive me. We all have scars, I keep my disappointment as scars. As hard as they were to go through, some needing more stitching to heal, they remind me I've come from the bottom to the top of the barrel. This helps me whenever I do face failure. I realize I've made it out once before and it wasn't my tears that got me through it, it was changing how I took those failures and turned them into drive. Life is how we look at it. It's always bad when we want it to be, but amazing when we want it to be. Think about it. Take hold of the wheel, let down the gas full throttle and never let up. Disappointment will always come, expect it. No one wins every single game! Losses made them winners sooner or later.

The New Old You?

I want to look back on some people who have made an impact on society: Muhammad Ali, Michael Jordan, Michael Jackson, LeBron James. I say these people and you think what the random? But there is something they all have in common. What is it? They all for one have changed their perspective industries in some way or another. Second they were always true to their own beliefs. I know it is a far stretch to put Michael Jackson in their, but I knew it would catch your attention. I want to focus on being true to you. The other night I was watching a show on Rob Dyrdek and what has made him so successful as a pro skateboarder. In the end of the show they ended by saying what's really made Rob who he is as a business man, is that he has always stayed true to the sport that brought him to the place he is at today at that is as a Professional Skateboarder. I got thinking about that more, being true to the things you love. When I talk to people this is the one thing our society has lost! We have started to set boundaries for our selves and the people around us. We start to say there is a certain way of doing something and that if we go out of those boundaries we will be looked down upon. It is crazy how people have started to act and the things people say about other people because of this. We look at different things with such a negativity, but some of the greatest things in our history have come about because someone was willing to do something different. Better yet everyone who has made it into the history books is because of their unique ideas and actions. These people had a goal in mind of becoming the best and were willing to do whatever it took in order to get to their goal. The one special concept that they understood was, that they couldn't reach their goals of becoming the best by doing it the same way as everyone else. Why do we have to fit a mold? I understand their are still morals and values we have to have, but restrictions on creative ideas or speaking what we think? No way! What if we all did what we loved? what if we all believed that we could accomplish some of the hardest goals we have in life? How much more productive are you when you are doing something you love? I know I for one am a lot more productive and my results are always the best. When we are doing what we love and we believe in that thing, we have an infection that will spread to those around us. In society if we could follow this we would realize life isn't about the money. We would realized that we were most happy doing what we loved. This would become the drive of our lives. When something in our life is something we love, we always make sure it gets taken care of and nurtured to become the best. Sometimes we even forget we are already doing something we love. Remember why we are doing something can have a huge impact on our lives. I think if anything this blog is the purpose of my entire blog! I want to bring the YOU! Out of you. Realizing you have something that can influence something big around those you associate with. You can't follow the rules society has put on you. Do what's good, believe in your self, you'll never know where YOU can take you. You can say there is this and that, which makes it so you can't do this. I understand. There is always an excuse for the things we want to avoid. The only reason you'll ever have an excuse for not doing something, is because you just don't believe in your self in someway or another. Realize your dreams, goals, and aspirations in life are always worth going for. Ask your self what do you want out of life? What do you want in life right now? Do you believe you can do it? Remember every choice you make will effect the out come of your entire life. Here's a fun test. Take a piece of paper divide it into two. One side write positive, then write negative. Now look into the mirror and just stare at your self. Every time you have a negative thought mark it down, then positive mark it down. Do it for at least 2 min. Look at your paper. I think it's going to be self explanatory on where your at in your belief in your self. You are your life's driver take it where it wants to go!

Cha Cha Change!

So the other day I was thinking more on fear and it went on to what it takes to change. This post is more of an expansion to F.E.A.R. Change is always different for everyone. There are people who can handle change, and other who hate to see change. No matter what though change always affects us in one way or another. I want to focus more on changing things in our own lives. I focus most of my thoughts towards fitness. People are scared to go to a gym and workout in front of people, because they are worried they will look like a fool. Why? I left my last posting saying we have a mirror in front of our selves. This mirror is like the judgement mirror. Whoever stands in front of this mirror will be judged harshly! Brought to you by YOU! One if there is anyone who is worth a dime, they will give you more recognition and praise for doing what you are doing, rather than judgements. Why would I say this? Let me explain. I was a track runner in jr. high and part of high school. I would consider my self good. When I was at the starting line I had no idea who well my competitors were. I may have raced them before, but every race was different. The competitor would either have gotten better or worse. I would focus on the finish line each race I wouldn't know what the competition would look like or even what color jersey they wore. All I knew was where I was starting and where I would end up if i ran my fastest. I always planned on winning. I didn't win every meet, but always knew I did what I knew I could do. Ok so what does it mean? We all have to start at the same starting line no matter what we are trying to change in our lives. Now some people have different abilities than us and they may be weaker in their ability to accomplish the change or be weaker. The competition is there to know how well we are doing. We can either be doing better, or we can realize our hard work is paying off due to beating the competition. I set my eyes on what I wanted to accomplish every race (or goal) and I knew that I would finish this goal each time no matter what! I would put all that I had in each race, as we should in our goals. We have started at the same starting line, and then we finish at the same finish line, but one always leaves a winner. I now know where I am at in my own strengths though. Did it mean that, that person was unbeatable? Absolutely not. I can improve and reach that person if I followed the rules of hard work. So no matter what we do we start and finish in different areas. The winner no matter what should realize they started in the same place as you at some point in their training. If someone tries to bring you down I can promise you that it is due to the fact that they are worried to lose the top spot. There has to be some kind of threat, and who likes to be threatened? It will always be a competition circle. It's should be in our own personal interest to keep that going. Change is a positive thing in our lives, as long as we choose to make it that way. Everyone is worth the effort in making change happen in their lives. If you don't think so I am telling you that your wrong! I deal with change daily! I've seen people think of change as impossible only to make it possible in their daily lives. Start at the starting line, but always finish first in your own track meet. changing you into you!, so be on the look out for that.

F.E.A.R.

There has been a topic on my mind for a few days now, and its fear. Let's be honest its a word we all can relate to, but in different areas. Fear is such a powerful feeling. In fact almost every choice we make is based on some kind of fear. It's a feeling that we use to make a choice, after we've hopefully out weighed the consequences before making that choice. Example, I want to buy a new house. I have two choices one house is my dream home, but cost 100,000 more than I planned to spend. The other one is a house I don't love, but I can manage to live in to get started and it's even 25,000 less than I planned to spend. I have a choice that i can make now fear would stop me from spending more than I can afford, or it will cause me to stay away from just settling in something I won't be pleased with in the end. See where I'm going with this? I talk to people everyday, and see it in my self at times. There is no way getting around this feeling, but there needs to be a happy median. I have met so many people that let fear, dictate their lives. It controlsthem to the point that it holds them back. They could even be in a situation that makes them so unhappy, but can't leave that situation. Because their self value in themselves knows nothing better. They have become scared to do anything different or feel different! My mom always said she didn't want us to have a trampoline growing up because she had seen so many injuries as a nurse. People break their necks, is what she always said. My thought is, people break their necks driving their cars, swimming, and even walking! As dramatic as this sounds they are all true. We can't let fear hold us back from getting out of our comfort zones. I have had people tell me to draw a small circle on a piece of paper. This small circle is where I am at today. Each time I make a choice that brought me out of my comfort zone I was able to go back and draw a bigger circle around this small circle. I soon saw my circles really getting bigger and wanted to do more and more to get out of my comfort zone in order for this circle to grow. In the end my circle filled the paper. I erased all the little circles, so I could see how much I had grown. I am not saying go make drastic choices and go jump off the high cliff and see if you live, but see the logic in making choices. There are always going to be accidents, you will make a wrong choice, and it will hurt. We can't be afraid of getting hurt or feeling pain. We need to realize these things are why we grow. If you are letting fear take charge of your life, my message is this: LET GO! stop holding your self back of experiences that are meant for you! Feel pain, feel love and feel happy in allowing your self a chance! You can do it and no, no one is watching you because you have a mirror in front of you.